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I have since consulted with a QDRO lawyer . I hope ex has bad dreams for rest of his life.

I have been following all discussions related to QDRO, defined benefit plan, alternate payee and also noted post that new law does not address QDRO divorce and how alternate payee/participant would be affected, which is ironic to me at this time since I am trying to become informed late in life. I have paid an atty a consultation fee and was told he could not advise me as the QDRO was prepared in Az. and he did not know Wa. DRS law. So here is my question, can a QDRO be amended post-divorce? Factors to consider: M 8/15/1992 Washington, ex was a teacher. D 9/15/2014 ex was a Superintendent of school district. Awful divorce, custody issues and I was in remission from breast cancer. Ex remarried, cashed in Az. Retirement, I was informed by ASRS and began receiving 700$ after paperwork signed That was in 2021. He then relocated to Wa. rehired by School Dist. 7/15/23 my sons all here in Az. 2 in college 1 adulting, said their father retired and was moving to CRica. I looked at QDRO & divorce papers. I found a letter dated 2017, from Wa. DRS stating I was in TRS3 defined benefit plan and upon age 65 I would receive $610. monthly. I did sign divorce decree stating due to the fact I would be receiving substantial retirement benefits, my ex was only obligated to pay 36 mos of alimony. No mention of ASRS or Washington retirement. Then QDRO was detained and I do remember that, until 4/05/17 where the retirement accounts do not specify any amount, but say that upon retirement ex & myself can withdraw contributions or begin to receive retirement benefits as defined by the PLAN . The letter dated 4/15/2017 say I can withdraw at 65. I would be fine with that but I might not get there as implants had to be removed due to infection and tumor which is benign but I am not healthy. I cannot name my kids as beneficiaries, and I am furious. Neither ASRS nor TRS3 plan were ever disclosed until after the fact. The QDRO attorney has retired and sold his practice. Do I have any chance to amend? If so, which state should I hire attorney? FYI I received nothing post-divorce in terms of assets. My ex-husband hadn’t paid mortgage and house went into foreclosure. I am a preschool teacher and now on unpaid leave. Which I know is irrelevant, because in the end my sons are here and we are moving forward. But this derailed me. I am 56. He is 57.