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It is what it is. As my Mom always said, "everything happens for a reason"! Thanks again, really appreciated.

I appreciate your responses to me from day 1. I'd rather she still be alive. I'd also rather my kids received the benefit as they did with the rest of the estate. Maybe one was wrong but the QDROs did not read exactly the same as the other. I just don't feel like the company should keep my pension. No wonder companies don't want you to live!!!

Still doesn't make any sense to me since there are two pensions that are affected. One of them reverted the alternate payee's portion of my pension back to me but my current employer says that I am forfeiting the money, and they are going to keep it! This is the entire QDRO. Unfortunately, my ex passed away before I retired. Next step is to seek out a lawyer and go back to court to modify the divorce decree / QDRO. I saw that this worked in other cases but here is an example. On Death, Divorce and Retirement

Well, I am still fighting with my current employer benefits department. I appealed their decision and then again appealed their denial. Today I received another letter denying my appeal. I did go to the court and received both QDROs from both employers and neither of them discuss a separate interest or shared interest. One company reverted the money back to me and this company refuses. This is what the Administrative Benefits Committe (ABC) states:

I was divorced following 20 years of marriage. My ex was to receive 50% of my 2 retirement plans at time of our divorce. I have 2 pension plans as another company purchased the company is was working for. My ex has suddenly passed away and neither of us had started collecting my benefit. The first company has reverted my ex’s benefit back to me. The company I am currently working for says that my benefit is being forfeited. I do not have copies of my QDROs. Both QDROs were filled out and signed at the same time. This makes no sense to me.