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Greetings, Thank you for the prompt response. Your assumption is correct, I am the Alt Payee. The initial purpose for me to agree to half of their ESOP was to free up cash for debt and cost of living during the transition. I was informed prior to the Decree that the ESOP was a defined "plan" and that a lump sum would be payable immediately after valuation. (After the QDRO was approved) When the Judge signed the Decree, the cooperation from the administrator ceased, it then took a year for me to get the QDRO approved. Is there a way to compel them to give me the terms of the "plan" ASAP, or do I need to wait until they have the annual audit and send the statement out to all share holders? They have sent me a Statement reflecting my segregated shares and a valuation dating to the 2015 audit, but nothing regarding current value and options for distribution. Thanks in advance.

Spouse and I agreed to divide all assets and holdings prior to non contested divorce. I gave up everything on my side within the first 90 days. The other side dragged their feet and it took a year, The last remaining piece we were negotiating was their ESOP. I had agreed to equalize everything on my side so as to be entitles to 50% of their account balance. I tried to get the QDRO drafted and approved, with the correct language, prior to the Decree but was given the run around on the actual language of the "plan" multiple times. Spouse was able to get a "default decree" signed by the Judge without my knowledge. I was served papers and didn't have a valid QDRO in place. I was able to contest on the ground of misrepresentation, but only allowed to file a QDRO post Decree, The Plan administrator finally accepted the QDRO after a year of attempts and is giving me some harsh feedback on my ability to get any information as to distribution of any kind. What are my rights? They are setting up a sequestered account at the trustee bank. I have only the amount of shares I am entitled under the ESOP. With shares value under the equalization, it is supposed to be over 245K. No other papers have been sent to me as of Dec 24 2016. Any help would be greatly appreciated. I am 30k into legal fees and exhausted.