bdwell1904

That is what I will do then. Go back to court and speak to the judge. Even if I have to get him served.

Changing my approach is the necessary thing I agree which lead me here. 1. Not understanding previous plan administrator Vs. New plan administrator. 2. Should I just get a lawyer... 3.I didn't mention previously, He turns 60 this year and he told our daughter something about them (Exxon Mobil) giving him his portion. Which, since he blew through his years ago, is about $17. My daughter and I, about 3 years ago, ask him about the dro again, he said he would call about it. That's when we found out about something happening at age 60 then. Also when he called then to ask whether he should sign the dro, and how much money was in my Alternate Payee account he got really pissed. Wouldn't tell me what they said and blocked me from all social media. I really didn't think too much about it until he and our daughter reconciled due to the fact that he has cancer. Now I'm not sure if he will even make it to 60. I feel like either way I need to do something soon. That's why I called and found out they have no information on either of us. Thanks for your assistance.

The judge won't sign unless he does. I already did everything the previous plan administrator said. Filled out the dro, paid the fee sent it through the court. That's what I got back from the judge. We are a community property state. IDK if that makes a difference. The thing I don't understand is how can the previous plan administrator help me with all of this but the present plan administrator say they have no knowledge of me or my ex.

The judge won't sign unless he does. I already did everything the previous plan administrator said. Filled out the dro, paid the fee sent it through the court. That's what I got back from the judge.

Divorced in 2003. Exxon Mobil split benefits at time of divorce. I am AP with Approximately $175,000 at time of divorce. Husband has continued to refuse to sign the dro. I have always been able to contact the plan administrator to update my address and let them know that I need to be spoken to in person if they receive anything with my signature on it. He used up his entire portion years ago. Fast forward. I try to call the plan administrator and it has changed. New plan administrator states they have no record of me or my ex. What gives? WE agreed I would give up a nursing career to stay home and raise our children. I was OK with that due to the fact that I had stake in the retirement. Now I feel like I'm out and over $150k is just gone and not into retirement.