My ex and I went to mediation in April 2018. Settled on amount to be paid to me through QDRO (considering half retirement account/equity of assets and debts). My atty filed the paperwork. Divorce was final June 14, 2018. Through the mediation, I agreed to move with my 2 minor children. So, I had to find a house, down payment, closing costs, moving costs, etc. I also assumed the debt bc I planned to pay it off with a cash out of the QDRO. Came back for ex to sign on x amount back inn August. He refused to sign. He claims I didn't hold up my end of the bargain when turning the house over. Claims damage (there was none), claims I took things I shouldn't have (he made a list and I left EVERYTHING he asked for and then some). He said he doesn't have anything to lose. Right, I had all the expense of moving out and he's earning money on the money he owes me and I took the debt! His atty is a real treat and based on dates and texts I have from him, they were planning this all along- I just didn't see it coming until after the fact. So, they let me file the QDRO knowing full well that he was going to make me come after it. My atty told me in my county this wouldn't cost me more than 3500 as long as we settled in mediation. I paid him that and got an 8k bill after that. I have them hounding me for money but I'm a single mom and strapped. I have the bill down to 5800 but I need the QDRO money to pay him. He doesn't return my calls or emails for 6 weeks and the first thing he asks for is money! He asked me to settle with him after we ALREADY agreed. Finally, months later and I agreed bc I need to get this settled or I'm going to go into BK fast. I have borrowed from family just to keep my head above water. My atty claims he's waiting on a response from the other atty but it's gone on too long. I looked up what to do. It says file a motion to enforce the JOD. I was told when I do that, his atty is just going to file something claiming the mediation was done fraudulently. What can I do? My ex was controlling, abusive and manipulative and I still can't get away from it! Please help!
