Pmrpretired

Divorce was granted in Monroe County PA

First, I apologize, the $12,000 was to come from her first Nurse’s Pension not a 401k. Second, the state of Pennsylvania put into law Act 175 in 2005. This act seems to state she is entitled for the full 28 years. As of today, ex-wife still won’t sign my QDRO. She is angry to be receiving 25% and thinks she should get 50%. She’s threatening to ask for more child support unless I amend our Marital Settlement Agreement. She’s demanding I cover the kids medical through age 26 and that I forgive the money she owes me from her pension. Today, I went in and signed the forms to start receiving my pension without her signature on the QDRO. I need money to pay my rent and bills. I don’t know if they will allow it to go through or not. I have tried to do the right thing here. I can’t help that she is greedy and selfish. I am going to put $800 a month (her payment) into an account for when this gets settled. This way I have the funds on hand.

I retired January 31st. I can not collect my monthly pension payment until the QDRO is approved.

I am in desperate need of sound advice. I think I am going to get screwed by Pennsylvania law once again. My ex wife and I were married Sept. 1989, separated in March 2008 and were divorced in August 2009. I am a newly retired police officer and she is a nurse. We both have pensions. She is entitled to 25% of mine (I thought up to the date of separation which is 18 years). She was ordered by a judge to give me half of her 401k at the time, about $12,000 so I could roll it into an IRA that I opened. He told her not to touch it otherwise. I never got the money. The judge required both of us to have a QDRO completed within 30 days following divorce. Neither of our attorneys followed through with our individual QDROs. Fast forward to now. I am retired and can’t collect my pension. I just had my QDRO done, but my ex refuses to do one. She also says she recently took out whatever money was in that 401k, so the balance is zero. To top it off, the attorney who just did my QDRO says she is entitled to 25% of my entire career of 28 years plus $43,000 of the DROP ( which I paid into from 2017-present). Is this accurate? How can this be fair? Is she in violation of the court order if she doesn’t get a QDRO done? What recourse do I have, if any? Please help...