I was married for 25 years. When we got divorced my ex warn me not to go after any of his finances or he would come after me. When I went to the court date the judge saw I wasn't asking for anything and said "Oh no honey, I don't agree with this so I am leaving it open in case you change your mind". My ex worked for 30 years for the same company and does have a pension. While my ex was on vacation he had a massive heart attack and died in August 2018. My ex never paid attention to important paperwork so when he died my 3 kids had to go to probate court to get ownership of his 2 homes. I decided to get an attorney to go after the pension, so she has amend my divorce from 2005 requesting his 401k and pension, she also did a death QDRO. I go to court on March 16th of 2020. Is there anything any of you can recommend I ask the judge for? My ex was 60 years old when he died and had not retired. Thank you for any advice you can give me.
