"I may have made a grievous financial error.
Under the terms of my 2013 QDRO, I'm entitled to 100% of the marital share of my ex's pension. His plan's administrator in 2013 told me I'd start getting the pension when my ex retired. (That's my recollection. I'm hoping to find this exchange in writing.)
My ex is now age 62. He became eligible to retire at age 60, with 20 years of continuous
I recently asked him about his intended retirement date. He referred me to his retirement plan administrator, who told me I was eligible to start my benefit 'at any time.'
Have I forfeited either 2 or 9 years of pension payments? Is there any possible way for me to get back payment?
My QDRO is below, and the retirement plan is attached. Thanks for helping me think this through!
 The parties and the Court intend this Order to constitute a 'Qualified Domestic Relations Order' as defined in Section 414(p)(l) of the Internal Revenue Code of 1986, as amended (the 'Code'), and Section 206(d)(3)(B) of the Employee Retirement Income Security Act of 1974, as amended ('ERISA').
 This Order is issued pursuant to Section 20-107.3 of the 1950
Code of Virginia, as amended, which relates to the division of marital property rights between spouses and former spouses in actions for divorce.
 The Alternate Payee is hereby assigned One Hundred Percent (100%) of the Participant's total vested account balance under the Plan as of June 1, 2012, plus or minus any earnings and investment gains or losses thereon from June 1, 2012, to the date the Alternate Payee's
share is segregated into a separate account in the Alternate Payee's name under the Plan. Such 'total vested account balance' shall include all amounts which have accumulated under all of the various accounts and/or subaccounts established and maintained under the Plan on the Participant's behalf. There were no loans against the account as of June 1, 2012. The Alternate Payee's share of the benefits as set forth
above shall be allocated on a pro rata basis among all of the accounts and/or investment funds maintained on behalf of the Participant under the Plan. If applicable, the Alternate Payee's share shall be paid from the non-loan assets in the Participant's account(s) on the date that the award is distributed from the Participant's account.
 As soon as administratively feasible following the determination that this Order
as a Qualified Domestic Relations Order, the Alternate Payee's share as awarded hereunder shall be segregated and separately maintained in an account established on the Alternate Payee's Behalf and shall additionally be credited with any investment earnings or losses attributable thereon from the segregation date to the date of total distribution to the Alternate Payee. Notwithstanding the foregoing, the Alternate Payee may elect to
receive her benefits in any form or permissible option under the Plan, including, but not limited to, an immediate lump sum cash payment and/or a direct rollover into an IRA or other qualified retirement account in the Alternate Payee's name.
 The Alternate Payee shall be eligible to receive payment as soon as administratively feasible following determination that this Order is a Qualified Domestic Relations Order.
If the Participant predeceases the Alternate Payee prior to payment of the Alternate Payee's assigned benefits under the Plan, payment to the Alternate Payee shall nonetheless be made under the terms of this Order. If the Alternate Payee dies before full payment to Alternate Payee has been made, the amount unpaid shall be made to the beneficiary designated by the Alternate Payee, or if no beneficiary has been so designated, in
 No benefits have been previously assigned from the Participant's interest to another alternate payee under another order which has been determined to be a QDRO.
 This transfer is intended to be a trustee-to-trustee transfer and a non-taxable went to either party; however, if the Alternate Payee elects to receive a direct distribution from the Plan, the Alternate Payee shall be treated as the distributee
under 26 U.S.C. Sections 72 and 102 of the Internal Revenue Code on Federal, State and local income tax returns for all retirement benefits and distributions that the Alternate Payee receives due to the benefits assigned herein, and, as such, will be required to pay the appropriate Federal, State, and local income taxes on such distributions.
 The Alternate Payee shall notify the Plan Administrator in writing of any change in her
mailing address as set forth above.
 If the Plan is terminated, the Alternate Payee shall be entitled to receive the portion of the Participant's benefits as stipulated herein in accordance with the Plan's termination provisions for participants and beneficiaries.
 This Order does not require (i) the Plan to provide any type or form of benefit option not otherwise provided under the Plan; (ii) the Plan to
provide increased benefits (determined on the basis of actuarial value); or (iii) the payment of any benefits to the Alternate with Plan provisions. Payee which are required to be paid to another alternate payee under another order previously determined to be a Qualified Domestic Relations Order."