What you are being told is simply not true nor legal. You may need professional assistance as I even question whether the original determination of two accounts not being eligible for distribution to an alternate payee, but it is possible. You can try taking this on yourself, at least at first, by contacting the plan and telling them they are wrong, that a QDRO does NOT "age out" and they need to check with their own ERISA advisors before you go ahead and contact the Department of Labor on them. That might cause them to get some assistance from someone who knows what they are talking about. Good luck.