Possibly W (and/or counsel?) is "deficient" by not adhering to the court's order of drafting a QDRO? Possibly P is similarly at fault? Possible malpractice?
Of course, mjb and QDROphile are correct in advising adequate counsel, both for P and W, as well as for the plan administrator. Also, advice that the PA cannot get involved, except to review draft DRO, is absolute. (BTW, in addition to adequate counsel, P and/or W may need new counsel.)