The thought of passing off tax-free dollars to a non-profit (and expecting to take a deduction). That's definitely not how it works. I've had to discuss that a time or two. I get why folks don't want the tax burden, but there's a reason why RMD rules are in effect.
I've told my clients I will always look out for their best interest, and that they must also understand they might not always like what I have to say. It's just part of being a good service provider :-)